Mr. Lu Xun said: "the infinite distance, countless people, are related to themselves."

born human, everyone is not an island.

along the way, you are bound to meet all kinds of people and see all kinds of behavior. if you only pay attention to others, you will soon be dazzled and confused.

the most remarkable ability of a person is to be able to see through phenomena, to see the essence, and to see oneself through others.

others are their own mirror

as the old saying goes, "all things are done at the same time, and I will see their recovery."

the world is a mirror, and the existence of everything is not accidental.

A person's observation of the world and his view of others embodies his own cognition and mind.

have seen a story with profound meaning:

one winter, there was a goose feather snow in the capital, and a wine seller was hawking along the street.

an official saw this and sighed, "it's freezing, and the life of the people is not easy!"

and the painter who was drinking upstairs saw this scene and said with great delight, "it's really a rare picture of winter scenery."

at this time, a beggar by the side of the road was looking at the passing wine urn with envy and murmured, "if I had wine to sell, I wouldn't be living on the street."

thus it can be seen that in the same situation, different people have different positions and identities, and what they see is different stories.

therefore, it doesn't matter how other people are. Seeing yourself and seeing your position and situation clearly through other people's mirror is the most important proposition in life.

through others, you see yourself

virtuous people can always see the good deeds of others; immoral people often pay attention to the inappropriate behavior of others.

in many cases, the evaluation of others often reflects self-cultivation.

when he was a teenager, he played badly, often down and out, and mingled in the streets.

every time he passes a cake stall, the vendor squints at him.

he was so angry that even though some people said that the hawker might have an eye disease, he often told others that the hawker was snobbish and looked down on others.

later, Zhang Jin met a distinguished person for advice and devoted himself to spiritual practice.

when I passed the stall again, when I saw that the vendor was still squinting, he could not help exclaiming, "even if you are suffering from illness, it is not easy to go out early and come home late."

Wang Yangming said: "there is nothing outside the heart."

what the world is like depends on our hearts.

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the heart is dark, the practice is not enough, there are ups and downs everywhere; the heart is bright, the self-cultivation is deep, and everywhere is a smooth road.

do not easily evaluate the words and deeds of others, do not casually guess the motives of others, observe their own motivations, treat others with kindness, and see things with tolerance is the greatest ability to behave in the world.

learn from others and recognize yourself

is the smartest way to live

there are times when everyone is at a loss, confused and confused in his life.

only by following the law, seeing yourself clearly through nature, through others, and focusing on yourself, can you have a clear direction and take a good step.

Zeng Guofan, an important minister of the Qing Dynasty, was such a person.

when he became an official for the first time, he focused on others, blamed his colleagues, could not see himself clearly, and was quickly dismissed.

later, after returning to the capital, he began to recognize himself through others, and then changed himself.

when he was at odds with his friends and quarreled, he saw his paranoia; when he worked with his colleagues, when they left, he realized his arrogance; when he fought with the enemy and could not win, he realized his shallowness.

as a result, he changed, and people's attitude towards him also changed, and was praised by later generations as "a perfect man through the ages".

fools always pay attention to others, but wise people know how to recognize themselves.

others are only supporting roles, but they are the protagonists of life. A clear distinction between primary and secondary, sober self-knowledge, is the best way to live.

Di Zi Gui also said: "when you see people being evil, that is, introspection, if you have something, you will change it, and there will be no police."

things change, people are unpredictable, it is always difficult for people to fully understand others, rather than care about the behavior of others, it is better to see their own shortcomings, change themselves, and the world will change.

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Sun Tzu said, "if you know what you already know, you will not be defeated in a hundred battles."

most of the time, people's pain and discomfort stem from not being able to see through others and seeing themselves clearly.

in fact, all things are one. Through others, you can really recognize yourself; if you see yourself clearly, you can get to know others better.

through others, clearly recognize their own position, see their own cognition, understand their own shortcomings, so as to improve themselves, is a person's greatest ability, but also the best password for customs clearance in life.

, for the rest of your life, may you have the ability to clear the fog and see your own wisdom; you also have the ability to size up the situation and see others clearly, and live a clear self-knowledge and understanding.

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