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Mencius said, "if you can't do it, you can't do it. If you do it yourself, you will be right and the world will return."

if the result of anything goes against expectations, you should find the reason from yourself; as long as you correct yourself, people all over the world will be subdued.

in fact, the success or failure of a person's life depends on

on yourself

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laziness or diligence, pride or modesty, complaint or introspection either accumulate blessings or sow misfortune.

in the final analysis, fate is a cycle of cause and effect: what cause is planted and what result is gained.

people are lazy when they fail

Han Ying in the Han Dynasty said: "the disaster comes from laziness."

throughout the success or failure of ancient and modern ups and downs, a person who encounters disasters often stems from laziness and laziness.

Wu Wang Fuchai in the Spring and Autumn period was good at riding and archery and proficient in various tactics.

however, after winning the hegemony, Fuchai began to be self-righteous and relaxed.

he listened to the words of Boji, who was bought by the State of Yue, that he would not kill Gou Jian and not destroy the State of Yue.

he indulged in Xi Shi's beauty and strange treasures, ignored politics and indulged in pleasure.

he began to stay away from Sun Wu, Wu Zixu and other meritorious heroes, away from rich countries and powerful soldiers.

on one occasion, Wu Zixu repeatedly exhorted bitterly that the State of Yue must be completely destroyed.

Fuchai was so angry that he created a "trumped-up" charge, forcing Wu Zixu to draw his sword and cut his own throat.

the end of history is that the man who no longer strives to govern is destroyed in one fell swoop by Gou Jian, who has been struggling for 10 years.

Zeng Guofan said in the Qing Dynasty: "all kinds of ills are born from laziness."

all kinds of minor ailments and bad habits in life can generally be found in "laziness".

for example, too lazy to exercise.

the more you don't move, the more you don't want to move, and slowly begin to have backache, gastrointestinal discomfort, and dizziness.

as a result, as soon as they reach middle age, some people have big bellies and three high places, or stay in bed all the year round and sigh.

for example, too lazy to study.

I don't want to read books, get in touch with new things, or cultivate a skill.

as a result, in old age, some people will not be able to use a smartphone, so it is difficult to get out of the door; or without a fetish, they will not be able to integrate into any circle.

for example, too lazy to clean.

do not want to pack up clothes, do not want to sort out sundries, do not want to throw away useless things.

as a result, I always get upset because I can't find the clothes I want to wear; I always feel dull and quarrel with my family angrily.

the Book of changes says: "Heaven is healthy, and a gentleman should make continuous self-improvement."

laziness is not only the beginning of a person becoming useless, but also the starting point of widening the gap between people.

on the way of life, all kinds of regrets and requests are probably closely related to "laziness".

diligence can make up for clumsiness.

people can make the best of themselves, no matter how talented they are, if they can be accompanied by diligence in this life.

you can't lose without pride

Wang Yangming said: "Today, people suffering from illness are probably only proud of a thousand crimes and all kinds of evil come from arrogance."

Modern people don't do things well, mostly because of the word "arrogant".

once people have the idea of "arrogance", they begin to relax, and failures and disasters often follow.

Guan Yu of the three Kingdoms was called "Wu Sheng" by later generations, but he was criticized for his "arrogance".

he looks down on his opponent pound and is called a "madman" when he meets him;

he also looked down on his ally Sun Quan and rejected Sun Quan's marriage on the grounds that "how can a tiger girl marry a dog son"?

he even looked down on his own "five Tiger Admiral" Huang Zhong, thinking that "how can he be in the same company with an old pawn?"

in the 22 year of Jian'an, Wu Lu Meng succeeded as governor and kept writing letters to flatter Guan Yu, which made Guan Yu let down his guard against this "rough".

later, Lu Meng pretended to abdicate and Lu Xun became governor.

Lu Xun still wrote letters to fool Guan Yu. In the face of this weak scholar, Guan Yu completely let down his guard and began to deal with Cao Jun with all his strength.

the end of history is that Guan Yu fell into Lu Meng's trap, lost Jingzhou, then lost Maicheng, and was finally killed.

it is said in "quiet Dream Shadow": "Pride is indispensable, and arrogance is indispensable."

people can have arrogance, but not arrogance.

through the ages, big and small events have emerged one after another because of "arrogance".

Pang Juan of the warring States lost a big defeat in the Battle of Guiling and cut his own throat in the Battle of Ma Ling.

it is not that he is not as skilled as people, nor that he is outnumbered, but that he belittles the enemy and advances rashly, winning Sun Bin's plan of "encircling Wei and saving Zhao" twice in succession.

Shi Yuzhu in the 1990s uplifted the Giant Building from 18 stories to 70 stories, and finally broke the capital chain, with a debt of 250 million yuan overnight.

it's not that he doesn't have a plan or a business mind, but he proudly thinks he can do anything.

as the ancients said, "if you are full, you will be overflowing, and arrogance will be defeated."

in this life, the opponent you should care about most is not others, but yourself.

Don't be complacent because you have the chance to win, don't get carried away by small breakthroughs, and don't be careless because you are calm.

since this is the case, we can deal with it calmly and advance and retreat appropriately, no matter in good times, in adversity or in plain time.

there is no resentment of family failure

Zeng Guofan said: "if you are too upset, you will be restrained later."

everyone who is used to complainingLife is hard to go well.

complaining is terrible.

it blinds people's eyes and prevents them from seeing their own problems; it also loses people's minds and makes them unable to tell the truth.

Aunt Zhao, who was born as a servant girl in A Dream of Red Mansions, was lucky to be one of Jia Zheng's only two concubines and gave birth to a pair of children.

it can be said that with no worries about food and clothing and having both children, she can make a small family prosperous with each passing day.

but she became a typical resentful woman.

she complains that things are not good: there is no such thing in my hand;

she complained that her daughter didn't give money: why didn't you give the money you saved to your brother; why didn't you approve more money when you were in charge?

she complains that her son has no status: why should she gamble with Baoyu and be fooled; why should she be bullied by hanging out with her subordinates?

for all this, Aunt Zhao turned her good hand into a bad game: her daughter despised her, her son was afraid of her, the masters did not like her, and people looked down on her.

it is often said that family and everything is prosperous.

so, how to build a family's harmony and beauty, harmony and wealth?

as the ancients said, "each has its own responsibility, the sky is clear and the earth is calm; each responsibility is turned upside down."

self-reflection will save peace and warmth; complaining to each other will lead to restlessness.

those who complain will complain to their girlfriends that their husbands are not considerate, complain to colleagues that their mother-in-law is too picky, complain that their wives are not good at cooking, and that their children do not study well.

over the years, the family is smoky and going from bad to worse.

those who reflect on themselves will feel sorry for their husbands coming out early and coming home late, will praise their wives for trying new recipes, will understand that their mothers-in-law live frugally as their children, and will tolerate their children as much as they can.

over time, life will be lively and prosperous.

introspection and complaining, like heaven and hell, determine whether a family thrives or falls.

the Book of Rites says: "Father and son are in harmony, brothers are in harmony, and husband and wife are in harmony with the family." "

only when family members stop complaining, understand each other and work with one heart and one mind, can harmony lead to wealth and prosperity.

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laziness will kill a person, so start to be diligent: nothing in the world is difficult to work hard;

Pride will make things fail, so be humble: modesty benefits, complacency leads to losses;

complaining will lead to the decline of the family, so always reflect on yourself: empathy and happiness.

I would like to abstain from laziness, arrogance and resentment for the rest of my life, be modest and do things seriously, and be sure that capable people will be prosperous, get married and live in harmony. Encourage each other!