I have heard a sentence:

"when people reach a certain age, it is their family that really determines your quality of life. The harmony and happiness of the whole family is more important than anything else. "

when you think about it, it's the truth of life.

if families are at odds with each other, no matter how much wealth they have, it will only add to troubles and disputes.

Family and talents are prosperous in everything, and people and talents are always at peace.

the most terrible thing about a family is that someone can't figure it out. Most of the conflicts in the family come from this.

parents are biased and hurt their children the most

there was a colleague who was so capable that she saved enough down payment after just three years of work and bought her first apartment.

she not only works hard, but also has an easygoing personality and has always been very popular in the company.

until once, when the company organized a team-building activity near her hometown, she deliberately pulled me aside and told me:

"if you come to her house later, please don't praise her in front of her parents and mention her buying a house."

because she didn't tell her family at all, only that she rented the house.

I froze a little. When I didn't realize it for a moment, I heard her sigh and continued to say:

"I'm not afraid of your jokes. In fact, my parents have been partial to my brother since I was a child.

if there is anything delicious or interesting, he can come first and I will share the rest of it.

after I went to college, my room was changed into a study for my brother. I slept on the floor when I went back.

so I don't like going home very much, and I feel like an outsider when I go back.

if they know that I have bought a house, they will probably force me to transfer the house to my brother. I don't want to make trouble for myself. Please keep it a secret for me! "

but my heart can't help feeling sour.

Home and parents, which are the harbor when the child is tired, make her so afraid to avoid it.

it turns out that there is a reason behind those who do not like to go home and are less close to their families.

I often hear people say, "if you stick out a slap, five fingers will be long and short."

perhaps people's heart, it is really difficult to achieve absolute fairness, but parents are overly biased, hurting their closest relatives whose blood is thicker than water.

the indulgent party will only become more presumptuous, while the neglected party will become more and more cold, distance from their family, or even turn against each other.

there is a good saying in "do you know":

"for families with many children, parents need a bowl of water in order to live in peace.

although sisters should be modest to each other, it has to be one way or the other, but they can never give way. Over time, it is inevitable that there will be a grudge between father and daughter. "

people's hearts grow in flesh, and no one should be the one who is always ignored and sacrificed.

parents can understand clearly and treat every child impartially, which is the foundation of family harmony.

the original family is larger than the marital relationship, and the husband and wife are easy to be centrifuged

in recent years, there has been a popular joke on the Internet: "Don't marry Ma Baonan, marry don't marry Voldemort."

although there is some teasing, it is not without reason.

this marriage to find a partner, the most afraid is to find a confused partner, everything is "the original family above the small family", and as a pillow, can only be aggrieved and compromised.

if this goes on, the days will come to an end sooner or later.

in the documentary program "Gold Mediation", there was a lady surnamed Wang and a Mr. Feng.

at first, the two were also free to fall in love and get married. Ms. Wang appreciated Mr. Feng's sense of family care and responsibility.

but do not want to, this has also become the fuse of the conflict between the two in the future.

after marriage, the couple opened a small company and discussed how to manage their small family together.

but as the husband's family comes to the door again and again, the peace is broken.

first the husband's brother and brother came to them to help the company under the name of helping the company.

but at that time, the company had just started and could not receive a few orders of business a year, and the arrival of the two brothers added a lot of burden to this small family that was not rich in the first place.

later, my father-in-law said that the young couple should not be separated for too long, and arranged for his brother's wife and children to come over.

days like this make Ms. Wang feel miserable.

so he discussed with her husband whether they could wait until the conditions were good to help their families. At present, they were all too busy to take care of themselves, so they should take care of the small family first.

but Mr. Wang was furious because he thought his wife was too selfish. He thought that now that he was married, he should accept his family unconditionally.

the experts and mentors present were very distressed about what happened to Ms. Wang.

there is nothing wrong with taking care of the family, but if you only care about the original family, regardless of the feelings of husband and wife, that is the beginning of the end of marriage.

when you become husband and wife, it is never who joins whose family, but two.People form a new family, support each other and work hard.

whether it is to help your mother-in-law or support your mother-in-law, do your best within your ability.

but don't forget to put the pillow person first, the family relationship is not misplaced, is the good way for husband and wife to love.

think more of your partner and embarrass each other less, so that you can spend a long time.

Old people meddle in their children's lives and there is no peace at home

some people say that if an old man always likes to meddle in the lives of his children and take care of too much, it will be difficult to live in peace in that family.

Yes, one generation has a generation's concept of life.

the public argument is reasonable, the mother-in-law is reasonable, there may be no absolute difference between right and wrong, but once the sense of boundary is not clear, it will destroy the peace of the home.

in the hit drama "double-sided Glue," Lijuan and Yaping had a very good relationship, but with the arrival of their parents-in-law, the two began to have conflicts.

the young couple originally agreed to do housework once a week, husband and wife division of labor, not tired of work.

but when her mother-in-law came, she asked them to clean up more frequently, because she felt sorry for her son and took his share of the work.

daughter-in-law Lijuan is picky about the direction of washing dishes, how much detergent is poured, and how much water is boiled.

including the decoration of the house, the mother-in-law also rearranged it according to her own preferences:

said it was inconvenient to wash the tablecloth and replaced it with plastic sheeting.

the sofa cover carefully selected by Lijuan was changed into the old bed sheet sewn by herself without authorization, saying that it was for the convenience of tidying up.

this kind of life makes Lijuan feel so depressed that sometimes she would rather take the initiative to work overtime than return to that uncomfortable home.

in fact, there is no shortage of such scenes in life:

or the young couple seldom sleep late at home on weekends, while the elders of the family say, "it's good to go to bed early and get up early. What are you doing in bed at a young age?"

or the young couple pursue a sense of etiquette and occasionally have a candlelight dinner, but the old man says, "it's more important to live a good life than anything else." or even want to take over to help their children take over the economic power.

or when educating the next generation, grandparents are always doting too much. If you say a word, they will ask you back: "that's what I taught, didn't I bring you up?"

parents may be well-intentioned, trying to help their children as much as possible while they are alive, so that they can take fewer detours and suffer less.

but I live on my own, just like shoes on my feet. Only I know whether they fit or not.

No matter how much the old man worries, it is futile. If he meddles too much, he may still be thankless.

you don't have to use your own ruler to measure your children's lives, pretend to be deaf and dumb, keep a bowl of soup apart and learn to let go is the wisest love for parents.

I very much agree with a sentence: "when something happens, it is the best feng shui for a family."

indeed, most of the pain in those families comes from being confused.

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parents treat their children favourably, which will lead to the disintegration of an otherwise harmonious family.

couples put their original family above marriage, so it is difficult for husband and wife to be of one mind.

the elders in the family have no sense of boundary and like to point fingers at their children's lives under the banner of "for your own good". Life will only get more and more chaotic.

, may all parents in the world be at peace with each other and cherish the palms and backs of their hands.

everyone who gets married will be more kind to their partner and will not make her cry and chill at any time.

from then on, every old man in the family can be less offside, care more, and return a free world to his children as much as possible.

be a sober, clear-headed person who can keep the family away from suffering and make life run smoothly and happily.

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