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WeChat group has become a necessary tool for us to socialize online.

during the holidays, groups of classmates and relatives always liven up. Some people like to share their recent happy events in the group, while others like to make jokes.

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there is only one kind of person who will not say a word even if others are chatting enthusiastically in the group.

although different circles do not need to be integrated, sometimes because of face-saving or "prevention of the future" concerns, they will not be cruel to withdraw from the group, but will only dive silently in the group.

in fact, such people often have the following four kinds of mindset.

has no common topic, and is not willing to withdraw from the group

growing up, we meet new classmates or friends at every age we go through.

the torrent of time pushes us forward, and the intersection becomes less and less because we have chosen different paths of life.

when the student group was first established, everyone chatted very lively.

some people used to be good friends, but for some reasons they did not keep contact with each other, and they met coincidentally in the group without some polite pleasantries.

recalling the past is a feast of remembrance for everyone.

when we talk about the past and the current situation, we seem to have suddenly returned to the days when we used to laugh and play together.

however, the novelty will eventually disappear.

slowly, there are fewer and fewer topics that we can chat about, and the content is becoming less and less nutritious.

until one day, the pop-up window of the new message of WeChat group turned into a cut link, a link to help vote, and a request to go to WeChat moments to help like.

have heard such a sentence:

"not all fish live in the same ocean. Everyone sees the world from a different perspective."

I am deeply convinced that some people suffer from working hard in big cities, and some people choose to marry and have children in their hometown. Each of us is busy making a living, and the neglected WeChat group is ignored.

although it is useless to chat on a common topic, after all, the group are all partners who used to get along with each other day and night. The reason for the reluctance to quit the group is because of emotion, and it is also because of the only connection with everyone that I can't bear to give up.

Life is too busy to maintain feelings

Life, for too many people, is endless work, endless chores, tired body and lack of spirit every day.

at this time, what we need most is to free ourselves and have a good sleep.

even if the chat topic in the WeChat group is of interest to you, even if the person you are chatting with has a very good relationship with you. I'm too lazy to join at this time.

there are countless people, in the busy day after day, live themselves into a rotating "top", gradually unable to see the meaning of life.

in order to make more money, give children a better learning and living environment, give parents and loved ones a better material life.

because I am so busy, rest is already a luxury for me, not to mention taking a little time to maintain my relationship with WeChat group.

the group messages that keep popping up are a nuisance to everyone who is busy, so the screen is set up.

when you're done, turn on your phone and find that the prompt for new news is 99 minutes. Even flipping up the chat record is a kind of tiredness, not to mention joining in with interest.

therefore, WeChat groups can only be snubbed again and again, but they are not willing to quit.

is reluctant to fit in with the group, and it is impolite to withdraw from the group

writer Su Cen once said:

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if a relationship, a person, you have to spend a lot of energy to please, this is not destined to accompany you to the final fate.

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I deeply agree that the real feelings in this world never need to be deliberately maintained and managed.

A true friend never has to please you painstakingly.

this is true of those who do not talk much in the group.

although the group is full of friends who have intersected and had a good time for a period of time, it does not mean that everyone can talk together now.

because of our different living environment, some people work as white-collar workers in big cities, some people are busy with their studies, some people may be farming at home, some people are tired of starting a business.

people now work in a wide variety of industries, and their attitudes towards people and things must be very different.

when you chat in a group, you may throw out a stem that you think is very funny, which no one else can understand, and you can't pick up what others are talking about.

as time goes by, some people may occasionally open the group, while others set the group to do not disturb and never look at it again.

when it comes to quitting the group, I really haven't thought of it that way.

after all, we are all old friends, and if we venture to withdraw from the group, it will leave an impression of "impoliteness" to others.

enjoy life and don't want to be disturbed

there is a theory in psychology:

when it comes to interpersonal relationships, people's brainpower is limited, allowing each person to have a stable social relationship of 148 people, while only about 20 people have in-depth relationships.

those who are very closely connected are called "strong relationships", while those with general connections are "weak relationships".

if a person spends most of his time maintaining this ""weak relationship" above, then it is easy to ignore "strong relationship", which will only outweigh the gain.

people who don't like to talk in WeChat groups just spend most of their time enjoying life.

after all, no matter how hot the chat is in the group, it is better to sit and chat with family and friends and go out shopping together.

in life, too many people indulge in the illusory online world, spend a lot of time every day to maintain their false social interaction, but forget to slow down and enjoy life.

once saw a story:

A young man was so distressed that he went to complain to the Zen master.

when the Zen master saw that he had not finished his complaint for half an hour, he asked him to kneel in front of the Buddha holding a piece of paper and said, "I'll go out for a while, and you stay in this position until I come back."

at first he felt relaxed, but as time went on, he felt that the paper weighed more than a thousand dollars.

when the Zen master came back, he asked him, "do you think this paper is heavy?"

he said, "it's so heavy that I can hardly hold it."

the Zen master asked, "I can't hold it any longer. Why don't you put it down?" If you learn to let go, won't it be easy for you? "

those who don't talk much in WeChat groups just learn to put aside their "weak relationships" and don't want to be disturbed by tedious messages and focus on enjoying life.

Lin Yutang once said that a happy life is nothing more than four things:

one is to sleep in his own bed, the second is to eat the food cooked by his parents, the third is to listen to love words, and the fourth is to play games with children.

after all, it is hard to exchange for enjoying the good times of life.

people change, and so does the circle.

maybe we hit it off at first, but with the passage of time, the common topic always comes to an end.

if you have nothing to say, don't be sorry and upset.

Don't embarrass others or yourself, maybe silence is the best way to say goodbye to a relationship.

, do not force yourself into the inappropriate circle, is the best love for yourself.