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received a letter from a reader:

"I'm getting married. I'm happy but a little scared. What should I do if I meet someone I love more after marriage?"

I think many people have had this kind of confusion and will worry about the uncertainty of their feelings.

the red rope of fate does not belong to people, and no one knows who will be the best. Who is the favorite in my heart?

in the long journey of life, everyone will have many palpitations, but not love, love will have results.

some people, no matter how good they are, can only pass by if they fail to show up at the right time.

the scariest thing in marriage is not that you meet someone better later, but that you haven't read about true love.

temptation is easy, marriage is much more complicated

when two people fall in love, they always ignore all the shadows and only see each other's bright spots.

and marriage is very realistic, the running-in of long life is bound to beat people back to the most real appearance.

if only the hormones boil into marriage, then the relationship is bound to come and go.

Feng Yu in the popular TV series "the Wind blows Pinellia" had such a situation.

Feng Yu and his wife originally ran a small factory, leading a dull and prosperous life.

but Feng could not resist the temptation. After meeting the gentle and beautiful Xie Jinbao, they fell in love secretly.

Feng Yu often likes to spend time with Xie Jinbao, and even though no one is optimistic about their relationship, he still indulges in it.

Feng Yu's factory encountered a financial crisis, Xie Jinbao took the initiative to take out his savings to him, Feng Yu was almost moved to tears.

later, Feng Yu's wife filed for divorce. Feng Yu never asked for a word to stay, and all he had in mind was Xie Jinbao.

factory is declining day by day, and many customers are asking for a return.

Feng Yu was so busy with the factory that Xie Jinbao's mother forced them to get married as soon as possible, regardless of the embarrassment of Feng Yu's recent divorce.

Feng Yu braved his head to hold a wedding with Xie Jinbao. As a result, many relatives and friends did not come, and the wedding scene was deserted and embarrassed.

after marriage, Feng Yu wanted to sell the factory away from the intriguing business, but Xie Jinbao insisted that Feng Yu barely maintain the factory.

as a result, only a month after their marriage, Feng Yu and Xie Jinbao got into fights over various contradictions and finally parted ways.

after Feng Yu saw through everything, he said: "Marriage cannot rely on love alone."

heartbeat is a burst of hormones, just look each other in the eye, while marriage is dependent on each other for the rest of life, which requires a lot of comprehensive consideration.

as the writer Liu Na said, "the truth of marriage is a combination of needs, reproduction, property and interests."

Marriage is a complex proposition, and a single love is too weak to support the future.

not everyone is fit to get married. Some people are destined to be passers-by in life and can only stay for a while.

all love, used to be new lovers

feelings come and go, du Fu has already written in "Beauty": "I only laugh with the newcomers day and night, even though I am an old man crying sadly."

when you are strong with the new people, the old people have long been left in mind, but who has ever remembered:

already tired of the pillow person, also once let the person palpitate, also once was the person that you try to love.

Last year, netizens

@ Orange

divorced from her husband because he had a new love.

Orange and her husband met at a party of friends. The husband fell in love with the orange at first sight and began to pursue it fiercely ever since.

her husband often waits early downstairs of the Orange Company to bring her a steaming breakfast.

on weekends, my husband always finds an excuse to ask oranges out to play, and he will actively take care of oranges if they ask for help.

once, when Orange lost his wallet on a business trip, her husband immediately asked for leave to send money to Orange.

after falling in love and getting married, the husband was still gentle and considerate to oranges, and they gave birth to a pair of lovely children.

my husband once said publicly to Orange's family, "We can never get divorced."

but last year, the husband suddenly said he was in love with someone else. No matter how sadly Orange cried, the husband never changed his mind.

you see, people become so caught off guard.

when people empathize with someone else, they always think that their old love has lost its charm and can not satisfy their illusions of love.

but the reality is that love in the mouth is just an excuse for lust and greed.

I read a short story in which a wife disliked her husband for being too honest and fell in love with another funny man.

when the wife wanted a divorce, the husband asked her, "didn't you think I was secure when you married me?"

Yes, it is not that former lovers are not worthy of being loved, but those who have changed their hearts have forgotten their once hot and loving feelings.

like this sentence very much:

"Love can never last forever. There will be people around you who are more attractive to you, but true love is not just a change of feelings. If you always want to be fresh, there will always be more fresh people."

being obsessed with novelty is one's biggest misunderstanding of feelings.

all old love is once a new love, and all new love will become an old love.

the secret of marriage preservationThe trick is never to change partners, but to manage with your heart.

change of heart is instinct, loyalty is choice

some time ago, Wu Jing participated in the Beijing International Film Festival, which attracted countless people's praise.

during the group photo session, a female guest dressed sexy came forward to take Wu Jing's arm. Wu Jing sensed that she immediately withdrew her hand.

the female guest was ready to hold out her hand again, but Wu Jing directly made a rebuffing gesture, but the female guest did not continue.

Wu Jing's small move greatly shows his bottom line and reveals his respect for his wife and marriage.

Life is long, and everyone will face emotional temptations more or less, while people who really understand love will not be moved.

the embodiment of a person's charm is not how many members of the opposite sex are around him, but that he loves someone well.

recently, Messi is galloping in the World Cup, with the names of his wife and children printed on his boots.

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Messi, who met his wife Antonella at the age of nine, once said to Antonella, "one day you will be my girlfriend."

since then, Messi has been quietly trying to get better, waiting for himself and Antonella to grow up.

with Lionel Messi's growing fame in football, there are more and more temptations around him, but Messi still only loves Antonella.

at the age of 18, Messi pursued Antonella as he wanted. "I have a girlfriend," he announced without hesitation. "

if the opposite sex asks for a group photo, Messi will also take the initiative to keep the distance between each other and avoid excessive intimacy with the opposite sex.

when other football stars keep changing partners, Messi is always surrounded by Antonella.

it is because of Messi's loyalty that he and Antonella have gone through 17 years of ups and downs, still living in love and sweetness.

Fu Seoul once said: "marital loyalty is a kind of self-restraint."

Human greed, change of heart is instinct; friendship is firm, loyalty is choice.

Marriage is not a multiplayer game, but a physical and mental contract between two people. since you choose to wear a ring, you should keep your promise.

romance is just a thing of the past, matching a partner is the gift of fate.

loving the person next to you is the best love you can do for the rest of your life.

teacher Luo Xiang said a paragraph:

No one can reach all your presuppositions for her, a lovely person, everyone will love her, but when she is no longer as lovely as before, you still love her, and you are willing to discover her loveliness, then this is true love.

there are no perfect partners, all with their own flaws.

yearning for a beautiful relationship is not looking for different love, but seeing different beauty in your lover.

the so-called partner is to witness each other's joys and sorrows and growth in the long river of life.

what is true romance?

it must be one person for the rest of his life.

put aside the extravagant hope of love, there is warmth in ordinary life, feel it with your heart, there are small surprises everywhere.

, may all marriages have only the warmth of two people and the happiness of the whole family.

Don't be fooled by flashy, don't worry about your feelings, and rejoice in living smoothly in the days to come.

Li Kemo, source