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I like a sentence very much: all the fate we meet is to cross you.

Family members are not only people who are deeply involved in our lives, but also people who deeply influence us.

the most precious encounter in life is not only cause and effect, but also a kind of repayment.

those who are dear to you in life are here to ferry you.

your partner is here to ferry you

I have seen a documentary called "Seven years of Life" by BBC.

the documentary recorded the lives of 14 children in 63 years.

one of the most impressive is the experience of Paul.

Paul grew up in an orphanage and never received companionship and love. He was once very self-abased and gloomy and pessimistic.

then he was lucky to meet Sue--, an optimistic and cheerful girl, and married her.

(Paul and Sue, aged 21)

in the days when he gets along day and night, his wife's tenderness melts the ice in Paul's heart, and his wife's optimism gives him the strength to laugh at life.

this child, who grew up in an orphanage, is no longer cowardly and helpless, putting aside the haze of childhood.

more than 40 years later, when the program interviewed him again, the 63-year-old Paul's eyes still twinkled with hope for a better life.

(Paul and Sue, aged 63)

I have read this passage:

"A good marriage is a good school. It gives people warmth and beauty and teaches people love and tolerance.

A bad marriage is also a good school. It gives you the opportunity to be independent and tough, and to explore more possibilities in life. "

gentle partner, give you support in hard times, bad partner, let you learn to strengthen yourself in a desperate situation.

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Su Qing, a writer with outstanding appearance and literary talent, obeyed her parents' arrangement and gave up her studies and got married early.

after marriage, she revolved around the stove all day and gave birth to four children in five years.

instead of sympathizing with her hardship, her husband criticizes her and fists easily.

not only that, but also disdained that she was out of shape after giving birth to the baby and looked for the other woman outside.

Su Qing woke up from a big dream when the mistress who was pregnant with six armies came to provoke her.

she divorced decisively and moved out of the ice cellar home with her children.

later, she found herself again, put on the cheongsam she dared not wear before, and went to the long-awaited art exhibition.

she picked up her lost literary dream and wrote "Ten years of Marriage", which became a hot female writer in Shanghai at that time.

Life closes the door of marriage for her, but opens the window of her career.

as for the love and hatred that once existed, it has long since faded in retrospect.

some people say that a person will experience two rebirth in his life, one is birth and the other is marriage.

choosing a partner is the most important investment in your life.

you are very lucky to meet a like-minded partner, but you don't have to sigh if you meet someone who is not a good friend.

A husband and wife is not only a meeting of fate, but also an opportunity for growth.

those who hurt you give you scars, but they also become armor for the future.

if you are not destined to go the same way in this life, waving goodbye and living yourself is the most important life issue in the rest of your life.

your parents are here to ferry you

I like this metaphor very much:

if children are destined to sail far away, parents are the most powerful sails.

the best card they give their children is the guidance of words and deeds, and gentle and firm support.

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@ Liu Na

once recalled two things about his parents in the article.

when she was a child, her hair was sparse and yellow, and the villagers always laughed at her "little yellow hair".

the little girl had high self-esteem and went crying to her mother. Without saying a word, the mother snapped her long black braid and grafted it firmly and cleverly on her head with a red rope.

she was so happy that she learned a truth from then on:

it's no use crying when something happens. The key is to take action and find a way.

when she was in junior high school, she fell behind more than a dozen places in a big exam and was so anxious that she could not eat or sleep.

when she was in class one afternoon, she suddenly ran out of the classroom, rushed home, opened the door and saw her father, and cried with a "wow".

Dad said nothing at that time, picked up the nylon bag and sickle and went to the field. Her father pointed to the distant field and said to her:

"you see, in the land by the river, there is little wheat harvest in summer, but the corn grows very well in autumn, and there is a lot of wheat harvest in summer in the graveyard, but the corn grows poorly in autumn.

son, this is the earth's recycling recovery. If you use more energy in summer, you will have a rest in autumn. If there is still room in summer, it will come in handy in autumn. "

decades have passed, Liu Na still remembers these two things.

in the face of the major hurdles in life, she always thinks of her mother's optimism and her father's tenacity.

her parents' belief in the simplicity of life is deeply rooted in her heart, making her confused and struggling in the world, and she still has an original mind.

psychologist Wu Zhihong said: "parents are the greatest fate of children.

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in a difficult world, parents are the safest shelter. On the way forward, parents are the bright lights forever.

the movie "Ah"In Gan Zheng Zhuan, Forrest Gump's mother, in the days of miserable wind and rain, always coloured Forrest Gump's life with warmth.

Forrest Gump has leg disease, can only wear leg hoop to walk since childhood, his mother told him, this is a pair of precious shoes, will take you all over the world.

when others laughed at Forrest Gump, the mother said firmly:

"Don't let people say that he is better than you. If God's will is to make all men equal, he will give us all leg bands."

under the tireless guidance of his mother, this fool with an IQ of only 75 has lived a complete life.

parents are the first ferry people in our lives.

when you fall, they will give you a firm lift; when you fly high, they will watch you travel.

in this life, no matter how far the road under your feet extends, they will always wait in place.

your child is here to ferry you

recently reviewed the South Korean drama "Please answer 1988" and was quite impressed by one of the clips.

Dashan's father was involved in making guarantees for others, and for a long time, a family of five had to live in a dark semi-basement and live on meagre benefits.

my father disagreed with this, muddled along and turned a deaf ear to his wife's complaints.

until one day, in order to support his family, his son was punished for running a small business at school, and the teacher asked for parents.

when he arrived, his son was talking and laughing with a bunch of punks, and the father only felt a shock when he heard what they called his son.

they call their son "semi-basement" because their family has been living in a basement where there is no light all the year round.

the father was deeply stimulated by the thought of his son living in such embarrassment and shame for a long time.

from then on, instead of fooling around and drinking, he began to try to find a way to make money and give his children a decent life.

your child is here to ferry you.

give you motivation when you are hard, and give you warmth when you are tired.

I have a friend who got married in middle age and suffered from severe depression after divorce.

my emotions are out of control, and I often yell at my children.

she kept wiping away her tears with her small hands and said in a tender voice, "Mom doesn't cry."

from that moment on, she decided to cheer up.

she cleaned up her mood, stopped indulging in grief, devoted herself to her work and started her career again.

the days were difficult, but the child became the greatest comfort in her tired life.

at an early age, children know to bring kindergarten snacks back to their mother to share, and when they are older, they will help with housework.

looking back on the days when I was dependent on my children, my friend said with emotion:

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many times, we think that raising children is a kind of giving, but only later do we understand that this kind of upbringing is also a kind of back-feeding.

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writer Liao Yimei once wrote about love for children:

"because of you, I am afraid to die. For the first time in my life, I have a fear of death. I have the foolish idea of wanting to live forever, not because of greed, but because of concern."

Children are parents' eternal concern, and they are also the inexhaustible source of energy for parents.

with children, we have the courage to face the difficulties of life, and we have the strength and hope to deal with the storms of the world calmly.

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host Liang Jizhang once said:

"relatives have only one fate, in the next life, no matter love or not, will not see each other again."

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every encounter has cause and effect; all experiences are experiences.

give your warm family, make you compassionate, give your weathered family, give you armor.

Life itself is a swimming crossing, and the one you love is the boat that carries you.

, no matter what the scenery along the way, and the people who love you, accompany each other, walk to the other shore together.

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